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Proverbs Wisdom

Proverbs 18:1 Whoever isolates himself seeks his own desire; he breaks out against all sound judgment.(ESV)

HE who willfully separates and estranges himself [from God and man] seeks his own desire and pretext to break out against all wise and sound judgment. (AMP)

    Isolating removes us from the circle of support we have built. It is interesting about our support systems, there is a perceived support and an actual support. The perceived support is consistently linked to a better mental health where the received support and social integration is not. Invisible support is best.  Social support desired by provider has to match support given. This is called the matching hypothesis.

    Therefore, when I perceived that I had no support in friends, some family members, and church that I was desperately searching for and needing, I sought a counselor and immediately felt that someone would listen and care. During our sessions I discovered that I do have a good support system and always have had one, I just didn’t see it. I just knew no one was there for me and it definitely hurt my mental and physical health. My mental health is so very tied to my physical. Is your’s also? My mind can get so stressed, filled, convoluted and distorted that it makes me physically incapable of remaining healthy. I think part of this is relative to Lupus in remission, (thank you, Jesus), and undue stress strikes my body.

    When I searched online for support systems I found this information and decided that God must say something about it also. And this is when I found Proverbs 18:1. (when writing in diary of support systems I didn’t not list the online support link) That information was a real “Wow” for me, because I am very good at isolating and/or hibernating. Thinking I am doing myself and others a good service. After all, who wants to be around a grumpy, grumbling, pity party, bear of a person. Not to mention that I don’t speak nice, look nice or care! When I do isolate, I can look at self and realize that I am depressed about something or I am not listening to God.  He tells me things I don’t want to hear and when I ignore him it is harmful to myself. Will I ever realize that before hibernating or isolating? I hope so.

    I listed 2 columns; TODAY and FUTURE, I listed each of the people below into these categories;

Family members I am close to– My husband, Mom, Nicol, our renter missionary. We have a small family numerically.

Friends and/or acquaintances– Here I listed people I communicate well with and do not feel intimidated by in any way. I saw that most of them (8) were friends that I have had for 20 or more years. Do you ever feel like a shorter version of self? Like I am only 3 feet tall when I stand next to you and I feel like I am 10 maybe 15. I do feel this sometimes and it isn’t because they are 6 feet tall.

Professionals– Counselor, Medical doctor of 30 years, Pastor, supervisors in my volunteer jobs.

Others– I don’t know who these are. It is blank for now. Who would you place in others?

   In both columns the category people were similar except where I added a few that I would like to pursue because they have marked my life in a positive way. I found this exercise helpful because it enlarged my perception of my support system and I am sure it may not be complete. I at least know that one exists and feel better able to cope better mentally.

    Knowing that God doesn’t like isolation I am making efforts to remain social and open to share, versus Undercover Ostrich Attitude. I prefer to gain sound wisdom from my peers and professionals, than to hibernate.    

meerkat ostrich

Meerkat likes above ground HAPPY Ostrich!    I like this idea.

office hibernating

office hibernating

Rejoice in the Lord, always and again, I say, REJOICE!!

    Romans 5:1-7 Rejoice, because of trials, they help us develop endurance, Endurance develops strength of character, character strengthens our confident hope of salvation. Hope will not lead to disappointment. 

Blessings, Marsha